Biney Shares ....

Topic : Confused Men Vs. Clingy Men

Ahem! this past week my best friend and I were looking at locations for a Birthday gathering that I am planning in April for my 21st. Although we were not successful, we ended up on a great topic over lunch.
The topic "Confused Men vs Clingy Men" allowed us to compare stories and experiences that we may have encountered. Funny thing is we had different feeling about it all. I believe that boys will be boys attractive or not attractive. Here's some key topics we spoke about:
Relationship vs Friendship Confusion
Some men seem to think that all women are looking for a relationship at first sight. I beg to differ -_-. Some woman been there done that already so they just look for someone with no strings attached. When I say no strings attached I don't mean sexual (if it goes there then that's ok too), I mean conversation, chilling but without the extra feelings. If there is some sort of vibe that may lead to a relationship then so be it .. But both parties must know that the feelings are changing/mutual. Lets get to the confusing part .... Some men want one thing but act differently, and when the female act on the vibe the feeling on his part changes lol. she is now the stalker or the obsessed chick. I can never get it. Granted, some men are like females, they don't know what the hell they want. I think expectations vary from person to person. ex. He may want to get to know a girl and start a relationship, or he just wants sex. HEY! to stop the confusion and the crazy chicks at your front door figure it out and let her know. Its easier to let a female choose what she wants to do, even though its a win/lose outcome, its highly respected of a man who lets her do so :)

Clingy

I have a thing against clingy men I'm not the clingy type. but clingy men seem to flock to me. I'm not saying that I don't want a potential partners attention when needed, he of mine in return. But I can do without the 20 phone calls, 600,000 bbms, and 100,000 doorbell rings. My best friend on the other hand feels that she needs that, its a sign of affection. She gets a bbm hand to the face for that one lol... How can someone find clinging attractive. I think in a relationship space is needed. The occasional home movie,dinner dates, cuddle session or sleepover (if allowed) is granted and needed. But why the hell is he in your house like he live there.... I can proudly say I've never hovered over any my ex's .. yes I have been cheated on but so has she so the outcome is still the same ..
See I spoke about clingyness in a relationship how about outside of it. I've been single for a couple of years now yet some men think otherwise. Here's the thing about clingy men they think your leading them on .... -_- so they don't stop. personally if I don't like you in that way I will express that lol Im usually shy around the ones I actually like. Never should a female have to fight with a man who is not her man. So please clingers analyze the relationship your trying to develop and see if your the potential or the clinger :)

By the end of lunch we've come to the conclusion, the ones we like are not the ones we get.... were stuck with the clingers for now , until we find the balls to talk to ones we like -___-